Part 2
I’m going to tell you something nobody else will; and it is not to scare you, or deter you, or overwhelm, it’s to prepare you.
In here we work on being Honest with ourselves so that we can go out there and deal with all the lies of the world. And this requires rigorous honesty, 24/7/365, “all the time” honest.
I am not talking about, “do I really need to sneak that third cookie?” I am talking about a level of Honesty to the effect that, if you were to be falsely accused of a crime, sitting in court, and they dangle that plea deal in front of your face, you still don’t lie and say that you are guilty when you are not. You are almost incapable. I am talking about a level of Honesty to where you not only can’t lie anymore, but can detect all the manipulations around you, and are very careful about how much you participate in those lies.
Because the world, and all its lies and fakery, will manipulate and pressure us to lie, if not simply by association. You can feel it in the air, an unspoken belief that you need to lie, and participate in the lies: to get ahead, to retain comfort-zone, to blend in. Because remember, we already have the shame of falling behind, and that’s a big motivator to do anything to catch up fast.
We don’t have the time to get into all the examples; there are too many: from fake political promises and intentions, to fake food, fake education, entire systems and industries based on lies, to the fake wood in the furniture we buy, right down to the lie we were told about Santa Claus when we were kids—that was a fun one, but never forget how many people were in on it.
An Honest state (a state of Being that’s honest) will reveal all when you’re ready. But here’s a tiny example of what I’m talking about:
We had a house fire and ended up renting a house owned by a relative while it was getting rebuilt. One day a furnace technician arrived for a basic tune up. A basic furnace tune-up is really just a tech coming in and changing the filter, checking if there’s a fault code, vacuuming out the dust, and then try and sell you a new furnace replacement. After he sat there for an hour, he went to the homeowner and told her that she needed to replace the entire unit. She brought it up to me and I laughed. The unit was only 2 years old and worked fine, not a speck of dust on it, I had checked it out myself before I moved my family in. That’s not a small lie. Do you know how much a furnace replacement costs? But that’s his job, gotta pay the bills, right? This type of practice, this disease has spread throughout every single industry imaginable to some degree. Not all companies, but enough.
It is all around you. The pressure to lie and the conveniences of lying are immense, and it is so enmeshed in our culture and society that most can’t even recognize it anymore. We just play along, go with it, and participate in it with intentional ignorance.
The illusion is that it’s far easier to get by when we participate in the lies. Copy and paste, or AI assist some homework and tests; pay a little less taxes; get those up-sales; make that deal; get that promotion; get out of trouble; get that person to like you; get out of work; hide that sin; exploit others, or even make excuses for being the doormat yourself; gain sympathy; and just all around keep a nice and cozy narrative (internally and externally) that makes you feel a bit safer—play a character, attain the success that’s measured by the social metric, and gain some titles or entitlement. Because almost everyone knows and agrees that little respect is given until you’re driving an $80,000 vehicle in today’s world.
But we do not have the luxury of lying, because it’s the lies that make everyone sick. Lying and accepting and participating in the lies being sold to us is what makes us sick (not only addicts, everyone). Just because it’s normal doesn’t mean it’s right. Our body and mind know when we are lying and this keeps us in fight or flight; we store our lies in our subconscious, which is actually our entire body, our biology. We need to remember the lies we tell to make the next set of lies work, and that can be stressful psychologically; and people know when we are lying even if they participate and go along with it, which affects us socially because we then attract the same; this practice of lying brings more lies to us, and that’s Spiritual.
I have a handyman business; I fix stuff and do renovations. A position I could easily swindle people when given the opportunity. But guess what, it goes the other way too. If I get just one bad customer, they can crash my whole shit and I’m in court for a year. If I’m doing something like staining window trim and get one drop of it on their old funky carpet or something, I’m either replacing all the carpet, or I’m in court. And guess what, it doesn’t even need to be me who did it, if you know what I mean. Sometimes you need more protection than insurance.
Most view the ability to be a good liar as a strength. The best liars are idolized throughout the world as long as they are wearing a costume—suit or uniform. But we must ask ourselves, is it really a strength or weakness?
Living honestly (honest-living) is the most frustrating, longest, hardest way to go about life—at first. It seems useless, at first. Many people will be repelled by us in this state of honesty, especially the liars and imposters. People will start getting nasty when we stand firm on our more righteous morals and values. Profits seem to suffer. Relationships get turbulent as new boundaries are built to protect our virtues. Others will pour buckets of shame on us for not following the blueprint they drew up for our life. Accountability and responsibility seem overwhelming because we know and see that there are quicker, lazier ways. I am not going to sit here and lie and say life gets smoother and lighter when you get sober. It doesn’t.
But I will say, let my honesty do the work for me. Once I got past the transition, that dark night of the soul, which I will admit is not easy and soft, I have found that living and vibing this way handles most of the heavy lifting. I no longer need to consciously filter people, read people, make a list of who I think is supportive or toxic. All those lying narcissistic fucks are repelled naturally, they filter themselves, they reveal themselves; and the real authentic friends and family and clients and associates, are magnetized to, not me, but my honesty. This also happens with my thoughts.
I needed to allow my vibe to do it, which comes from my heart. This is something I could not intellectualize or analyze successfully. Can you imagine being surrounded by honest people? Can you imagine what it feels like to trust yourself? The problem is, we can’t, no body can. That’s the curse. We will flip back to our default setting in a heartbeat if we still believe that our belongs to us. Ya dig? You mentally talk yourself into doing something stupid and after you caught that thrill and realize what you did, where do you feel it? Not in your brain, we feel it in your heart. Humans are dumb, we don’t know how to guard our hearts in a healthy way, and that’s why we need to let it go, give it away to the other part of our Self known as a higher power.
I no longer need to attach myself to some identity, or mask, where I play this or that character that enables my maladapted behavior or my participation in fake ass shit that is nothing more than a never-ending train of distractions from the truth.
But my warning is for you to practice now. I know how it feels to just want to get this done and move on. But nail down your values now, no excuses. Build your new life on top of this, no short cuts, and with no influence from society because right now society is pushing for some nasty shit.
The world will pressure you to cheat, gamble, follow the hierarchy, obey the social program, climb the ladder, anesthetize from all the madness, invest in evil, and it can be difficult to sift through all the noise and chaos and easy to get lost in what has become normalized insanity.
How can we possibly discern truth from fiction when most of the best lies are spiked with few drops of truth. How can we see and hear the truth when we’ve been groomed for Stockholm syndrome and Munchausen by Proxy by those who we were conditioned to depend on and trust? And I’m not even talking about parents.
root & rise 
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